Online dating for interracial couples
Learn more about Christelyn via her blog, Beyond Black & White, and check out her book, Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed.When it comes to interracial dating, the people who’ve been there will tell you there can definitely be struggles.In a recent Ask Reddit thread, interracial couples laid out the real obstacles they encounter daily that they weren’t expecting before they got together.1. "My husband and I went to Disney World with my side of the family. We’re in line and when it’s our turn for the ride, they always cut the line off when it got to him," says Reddit user captawesome1794."Everyone had to explain that he was in fact part of our group and no, he wasn’t trying to cut us...." 2.Yet we’re statistically the least likely to date interracially. My goal is to encourage Black women to exercise all of their options. Discount no one because of melanin, or lack thereof. Candice: What advice would you offer women who don’t date interracially because of what people might think? I know a few women who would never date interracially, despite the knowledge that men of other races are interested in them.Candice: Why do you think there are so many Black women who don’t consider dating outside their race? Our country’s shameful history of slavery is often used as a club to beat Black women into submission about dating interracially, particularly when it comes to white men. I would say that if you’re the type of person who is overly concerned with what other people think about your life, then interracial dating is not for you.I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.
No, I don’t mean gabbing about the latest drama between Olivia and Fitz.
Christelyn: I have tremendous respect for Shonda Rhimes. Neither of those characters are the caricature of a Black woman.
We have layers, and like all women, we are complicated and splendid creatures.
Since Black women have been hesitant to date interracially for so long, I do consider it “progress” that many of them are discovering that different races of men are willing to love and cherish them. Candice: Something I’ve also noticed lately is that more of my Black female friends have begun to look outside their race specifically due to their frustrations with dating Black men.
I feel like this approach could be a bit problematic (because I don’t believe race determines the quality of man).