Internet dating scientists
Data about characteristics like personality and attitudes cannot accurately predict how that real life interaction will function.
The scientists also note that online profile photos are poor proxies for the chemistry sparked by meeting in the flesh.
Why would any self-respecting 22-year-old, after all, want to wade through a virtual pool of creeps and weirdos?
I would talk about it in a jokey tone, as if I were only after the avant-garde experience. But thinking back on it now, my online search for love was far more earnest than I ever admitted to my friends or to myself. ) is not a great place to spark a serious relationship.
They necessarily make matches before the parties meet.
But studies show that the strongest predictors of solid relationships are a couple’s live interaction style and ability to handle stress.
For example, people who sign up for online dating may carry some important personality trait, like impulsiveness, or may be more motivated to get married in the first place.
And in the new study, people who met offline in venues related to their shared interests — such as in church, school, or social gatherings — reported higher marital satisfaction than did those who met through family, bars, or blind dates. The search for a life partner is never easy, online or off.
Which leads to a lot of disappointing coffee dates.
And many potentially successful matches never happen.
I was frustrated, and ready to give up on the internet.
Chemistry is king, I thought, and chemistry is what online dating will never have. And I always just shrug, chalking up my (eventual) success to dumb luck.