Dating for overweight people
"What do you assume [anything negative] about your attractiveness? Do you assume that certain people, based on their looks or background, won't be interested in you?
Get clear on your assumptions and practice operating without them. " While the temptation to post online pictures from thinner times of yesteryear is a strong one, experts agree it's better to fight the urge.
"Photos that don't accurately represent how a dater currently looks are a recipe for disappointment — by both parties," Russo says.
"The person who initially saw the photos is likely to feel deceived, frustrated, and turned off.
"In order to have confidence, you have to accept yourself for the beautiful person you are," says Marie Denee, the plus-size fashion and style blogger who founded The Curvy Fashionista blog, which provides fashion, lifestyle, and beauty tips and tricks specifically for plus size women. "Every time (and I mean time) you catch your reflection in the mirror or a window or whatever, affirm to yourself: I am beautiful," she suggests. Try mixing things up by adding in other phrases, such as "I am sexy/gorgeous/fabulous," if you like.
"If you keep this practice going, not only will you believe it, but you'll exude it," says Poretsky, who teaches the "Body Love Makeover Attraction Program" course for overweight women who would like to date more and feel more attractive.
The most important things to consider when purchasing garments, products, or image-related services are fit and color; in order to have a fabulous appearance, you must definitely develop an understanding of which colors go together and which clash.
Keep in mind that rejection is an inherent part of the dating process, regardless of size or gender. "It's important to remind yourself that rejection happens to . If you're always blaming your size for dating woes, it's time to stop. Rejection hurts a lot less when you have a date lined up for the next night." Experts agree that focusing on your best assets is one way to take the attention off your weight.
"Accentuate the parts of your body that you already like," Poretsky says.
ccording to the CDC, approximately 34 percent of adult Americans are overweight; according to TV shows and films, however, most of the people who fall in love tend to be thin and preternaturally good-looking.
Empirical evidence shows us that people of all shapes and sizes meet and fall in love; for proof, any trip to your local mall should yield up scores of overweight people holding hands with their beloved partners, strolling and shopping.